Solution: Learning To Share and Resolve Conflict
Remain calm and speak at eye level with the child
Show the child that they’re understood and tell them what you observe
Ask questions and inquire about the conflict, listen and respond
Repeat what has been heard
Ask for the child’s input.
Praise and reinforce. when appropriate
Learn to manage strong emotions - Help children learn simple strategies for remaining calm such as taking a deep breath or stopping and counting to ten is an important part of the process of effective conflict resolution.
Talk & Listen- Help the child to recognize the value of using words and speaking nicely to solve conflict. Work together to develop a phrase that they can say to a friend to help start the resolution process.
Teach the child to be a good listener.
Problem Solve Together to Find a Solution - children will need help to navigate the process of brainstorming potential solutions together, with the aim being to find a solution that makes everyone happy.
Encourage Fairness- Talk regularly with children about the benefits of being kind, being fair and sharing with others, and catch them doing the right thing as often. Rewarding positive examples with lots of verbal encouragement.
When Nothing Else Works -Teach your child that it is okay to walk away when nothing else works, and that they should feel safe to come to you or another trusted adult to seek assistance resolving difficult situations.
Role Play Friendship-Related Scenarios -Use role play to help the child feel more comfortable utilizing the strategies outlined above. Taking time to talk through and act out potential scenarios that might develop on the playground or on a play date that will help the child feel more confident to use these conflict resolution strategies as needed.
Encourage Imaginative Play Imaginative play provides a safe environment for the child to work through overwhelming emotions, to make sense of things they have seen, heard or learned from others, and for processing social interactions, including conflicts. Having the space, time and freedom to play imaginatively, provides children with a sense of power to feel in control, capable of figuring things out, of thinking things through and solving problems.
Play Dates Regular play dates provide the child with real life opportunities to develop friendships and to use the strategies included above with parent/caregiver support, away from the stress of the school playground or other larger group setting. (Source: Chrisie Burnett)
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