Solution Name: Positive Reward Systems
Give the child affection as a reward. Using affection as a reward can be an effective way to let the child see approval
Spend extra, quality time with the child.
Reward the child with a special outing or activity.
Allow the child to spend time with friends as a reward.
Encouraging behavior that is desired such as cleaning teeth without an outburst
Discouraging behavior not desired as tantrums, hitting
Rewarding the child for practicing new skills, like staying next to an adult while shopping
How does the Reward Chart work?
Reward charts work well for children aged 3-8 years.
A reward chart works well when the child needs to work on changing a behavior. The child collects stickers or tokens for the chart each time the achieved behavior is obtained. The child then gets a reward based on the number of stickers gathered. The stickers and the reward reinforce the positive behavior.
When the child tries hard to change the behavior, a reward chart can show the child when a good job has been accomplished and keep them motivated.
Reward charts can also help to focus on the positives in the child’s behavior. This might be helpful if feeling frustrated by the child’s behavior and have been paying more attention to negative behavior.
Some parents worry that rewards for good behavior are like bribes, but they aren’t the same. The difference is bribes are given before the behavior you want; a reward is given after.
For example, a reward might be that you let the child choose what’s for dinner if she plays nice with her younger sister. Rewards aim to reinforce good behavior, but bribes don’t.
Ideas for Rewards:
Read a book
Stay up late (can be an extra 15 minutes)
Pick a favorite movie
Earn an item
Positive vibe money jar
Special time alone with a parent
Have your child pick out favorite stickers
Poster Boards or Construction Paper